I am writing this in response to dozens of emails from single moms (like me) who wish to obtain child support from the fathers of their children. It will sound easy, but I have to remind you that this is an emotional battle, not just financial. You will have to face the man, who has not only broken your heart but also left you in a monetary rut. It will be painful for you, but you have to do this for you and your children.
- Find a lawyer specializing in family law– Private lawyers are very costly, but I find that they give better advice and walk you through all the steps in filing for a child support. However, if you cannot afford one, you can go to your municipal hall and consult with a public defendant, who probably has a lot of experience dealing with these cases daily. But in my opinion, it is always best to pay for a private lawyer for your first and/or second consultation, and when you have filed your case, you can ask the court for a public defendant.
- Send the father of your child a demand letter – Send as many as you can through registered mail. Send it to his home address, billing address, business address, parent’s address, and siblings’ addresses or even at his friends’ address; just to make sure that he receives one and he will not have any reason not to contact you. There are two possible outcomes from sending a demand letter with your lawyer’s letterhead.
- He will ignore the letter of support, not contact you and then you can proceed to the next step.
- The child’s father will contact you and the two of you can come to an agreement, with or without your lawyers present. Draft a letter of support, indicating the terms both of you have agreed on, have him sign it and notarize it.
Note: The letter of support is important as it is a binding contract between you and the father of your child. It has to be a detailed draft of what your child will need up to the time he reaches maturity, usually until he reaches the age of 21 or up to the time he finishes college. List all possible scenarios where in you will need financial assistance from him. Just to be on the safe side, ask your lawyer to make one for you. If he fails to give you the monthly child support you agreed on, slap the letter of support on his face.
- Prepare Documents
- Birth certificates or baptismal certificates of your children
- A narration which consists of your whole relationship with the father until you decided to consult a lawyer. Be specific, it will take time to write the story, but you have to do it.
- Ask your lawyer to draft a petition so you can file a case – Once you have the petition in your hands, you can now file a criminal or civil case. Your lawyer will advise you on what and where to file it, in most cases it will be in your area of residence.
Fees:
1. Civil Case (ex. Abandonment)– filing will cost P2,500
2. Criminal Case (ex. Violence against women and their children, RA 9262)– free of charge
3. Per court hearing or judge’s appearance – P1,500 each
- Subpoenas will be sent – A hearing will be set. You and the father of your child will be notified of its date through subpoenas. There are some cases wherein the father contacts you upon receiving a summons from the court, especially once they see that they are being charged with a criminal case. This is the perfect time for you to lay down your terms and have him sign a letter of support.
- Court Hearing – Even if the father of your children does not attend the first hearing, it will proceed as the court will assign a lawyer to his case. This is also the perfect time to ask for immediate temporary financial assistance. This does not mean that the judge has already ruled on your case, it only means that you are asking for some financial help until the case is resolved. Usually, it may take up to 30 days, but the judge will ask the father of your child to pay!
- Judge’s Decision – If the father’s child is still uncooperative and does not wish to come to make deal with you, or you do not like what he has to say and give; the judge will make the decision after all the sides have been heard. Typically, the judge will order (FORCE is a better word) the father to give! Usually, the amount will be automatically taken out of his monthly salary and deposited directly into your bank account.
If you still have questions, please feel free to contact me. I am not a lawyer; I am just a single mother fighting for her rights and the rights of her child.
September 24th, 2007 - 4:45 pm
Hi - i would like to ask for the cost of consultation and demand letter. I’ve already decided to file for child support. thanks so much
September 24th, 2007 - 6:19 pm
If you consult with a private lawyer, they will most probably give you an amount for the whole case, about P10,000 to P15,000 but this does not include the court fees. Some lawyers don’t charge for the first consultation; but for those who do, they charge between P150 to 500 per visit, sometimes as much as P1,200 especially if you need affidavits or other such documents. If you just want to send out a demand letter, go to a Public Attorney (PAO) at your municipal or city hall. Public Defendants don’t charge for consultations!
May 22nd, 2008 - 8:07 pm
you were just concentrating on the part of the mother, are there also a fair right that a father can file for the custody of the child since the child was more than 7 years of age. Can the reason of, their mother had a new family and a baby?
June 12th, 2008 - 2:14 am
i filed already the criminal case in rtc and still my husband did not recieved any of my subpoena during his vacation in visayas and He is an OFW.Hold departure order been issued.
1. can i win this case even he did not appear nor recieve of the subpoena?
2. hw i can get child support since he is an OFW?
tnaks and need your advice
June 12th, 2008 - 10:17 am
Hi Momai,
To answer your questions:
1. Yes you can. The court will assign a lawyer to handle your husband’s defense, and the process will continue. When your husband gets back, then he you can have him arrested and put in jail.
2. You can go to the agency handling his employment. Show them the court’s ruling, some documents to prove that you’re the legal, and ask if they can help you bring him back to the Philippines. If they don’t help you out, ask the PAO handling your case if there’s any way you can sue the agency.
Your lawyer is better suited to answer your questions.
Jackie
June 12th, 2008 - 7:51 pm
my husband lives in davao (that’s somewhere in mindanao) and does not want to give us his address.how can i send him the demand letter?
July 18th, 2008 - 12:01 pm
Hi!
is there any specific percentage(or based on the law,say 70% of the father’s monthly income) with respect to the father’s monthly income which should be rightfully go to the children for the child support?My husband is an OFW but not a seaman.
July 18th, 2008 - 12:08 pm
Hi Maurice,
If your husband is an OFW, he probably went through an agency. So you might want to check with them about his salary and his beneficiaries. They are the ones who can tell you how much of your husband’s salary goes to you. If you’re talking about the percentage, you get half because you’re his wife.
Jackie
July 25th, 2008 - 4:13 pm
my husband has been working abroad for 5 yrs. now and he just sends me 50% of his allotment for our 3 kids. For sometime, I allowed this arrangement bec. we want to save for the future. But last year, we had a big disagreement and he wanted a separation even if I don’t want to accept it at first hoping he’ll change his mind.
After a year, the situation worsened. The kids are growing up and we send them to private schools. All prices came up, rice, gasoline, transportation, etc…. and the $350 per month which only amounts to P14,000 something as of present is not enough. I have the habit of recording every expenses and I soon realized the reason why I’m always out of fund before the next payday.
With this, I want to demand an increase of his allotment. I already talked to our company lawyer (where I work) a year before and she gave me some idea about having a “draft signed by the lawyer to be submitted to the agency where my husband is connected” and that the company where he works will have no choice (and also my husband, or ex) but to oblige.
PLs. enlighten me on this. Do you think I can demand up to 80% of his salary bec. we have 3 kids?
Thank you.
July 25th, 2008 - 6:38 pm
Hi Nanz,
If you’re asking what I think, then yes 80% is fair especially when you consider the fact that you have 3 children. I’m presuming that he makes $700 a month since you said that half goes to you. I’m just wondering if he has any other expenses there? Like board, lodging, food, etc. You also have to consider this and be fair to him.
You said that he wanted to separate with you in the past … and you didn’t want to. I hope you don’t think I’m overstepping the boundaries of our “acquaintance” by saying this, LET THE JERK GO! If he doesn’t want to be with you, then it’s probably because he really doesn’t want to. And no matter what you do or say, he won’t change his mind. I’m sorry if I was way out of line, but I hear this everyday from women who think that time will make things better for their spouses. In reality, a relationship won’t fix itself especially when you are a thousand miles apart.
Jackie
August 1st, 2008 - 10:20 am
Hi, Jackie
I am a single mom and have 2 kids, 8yrs.old son and 2yrs 7months daughter. We are not married by their father because he is separated. And now, he is in Barcelona Spain for almost 7 yrs. and have his vacation every 2 yrs. He is sending us before 6 to 7 thousand pesos a month. How can I spend that for the 2 kids and my son is in a private school and my daughter still have bottle feed. He is now a resident there and now he told me that he have another woman living there with him. Since then,over 6 months now he stops supporting the kids. He is telling me that he dont have a job for 6 months. Is that possible that he dont have a job there? Coz i doubt it or he just dont want to send money. Presently, me and my kids is living with my parents and for the meantime I am working in the office of my father as his secretary.
What is the best i will do for the support of my kids?? And i already send email to their father that i really need his support or else i will send this matter to court. And he replied me that i have to go on filing a case against him. Please i need your advice. Thanks
August 7th, 2008 - 2:25 pm
Hi, Jackie!
I am married but my husband and I parted ways last 2001. I have a 14-year old daughter who is with me. My husband has not given us “regular support” since we parted ways… sometimes, he does not give at all! I filed a case child support case (RA 9262) against him but he refused to cooperate. Instead, he filed an annulment case against me… maybe, he was thinking, if his petition for annulment will be granted, we can no longer ask any support from him… my daughter even stopped from schooling because he was filing too many cases against me.. I was working during that time and I was forced to resign because I have to look for a lawyer and help me fight his case. I was working at night (call center) that’s why I had a hard time coping up w/ my schedules.. I have no more money that’s why I had a hard time paying for my daughter’s tuition fees who was studying in a private school. My RA 9262 case was submitted for resolution and now I have a warrant of arrest for my husband.. but he left the country upon knowing it.. He is working as an OCW (seaman). I already asked his agency to help me but they even intimidated me and my daughter. I also checked from the POEA about his file.. I found out that he indicated that he was “single” and his parents were his allottee and beneficiaries. How about my daughter? My husband’s employer(agency) told me that they can’ t do anything about it if their employees or seafarers wanted to indicate “single” as their civil status… I already asked the Dept of Foreign Affairs to help me… they did but the his agency in Greece is not cooperating as well. I’m not asking him to support me (though I know I still have the right because we are legally married). All I’m asking for is for my daughter… I don’t know what else to do… Naaawa na ako sa anak ko… Thank you and God Bless!
August 7th, 2008 - 4:33 pm
Hi Tin-tin,
If you read RA 9262 carefully, you’ll see that you can file a case against your husband’s agency as well. Those who do not cooperate can be charged, be these government or private companies. Also, check with POEA, because if the agency is aware that their employees are filing fraudulent documents, their license from POEA can be revoked. You might to ask your lawyer to check on this, because as far as my cousin (who works in a recruitment agency) has told me, if the agency knows that the documents are fraudulent and they still accepted it, then they are also committing fraud.
If having their license revoked is not enough, then the RA 9262 case will make them think twice.
Jackie
August 22nd, 2008 - 11:54 am
hi,
I thank God for leading me into your website. I am a single mom and I have an 11 month old baby boy. Can I request for a sample of letter support because I don’t have any idea. His father has a family and I just wanted to assure that he will give support consistently. He already received the demand letter stating the amount he will give. I stated 4,000 a month every pay day to answer for the daily provisions and sustenance of my son or such reasonable amount that may be acceptable to me. He gave me only 700 last wednesday. His netpay is 4,498.34 php. He never mentioned the reason of giving me the amount. How can I be assured if what is the exact amount should be given for my son?
Looking forward to hearing from you.
Best regards,
Elloisa
August 22nd, 2008 - 12:05 pm
Hi Elloisa,
The father’s salary is 4,498.34 php every payday? And you are asking him for 4,000 php every payday? He also has his own family to support? Don’t get me wrong, dear, but don’t you think the amount you’re asking is unfair? The bigger bulk of his salary will most definitely go to his legitimate children, not your kid - and I’m not just saying this because it’s my opinion. This is subtly stated in the family code. Unfortunately dear, 8,000k a month will not be acceptable to the judge or the father’s family. The judge will most likely give you 25% of the man’s net pay.
Might I also add that stating an amount in the demand letter or letter of support is not a good idea. When the father receives commissions or his salary is increased, your child doesn’t get a fair share of that. Ask for a percentage of his monthly income, not an exact amount. If you have already sent him a demand letter, the same person who drafted this should also write the letter of support - after all, our children have different needs.
The letter of support should be enough to assure you that you will be receiving the monthly child support. If this doesn’t happen, you can go to court and file appropriate civil cases against him.
Jackie
August 24th, 2008 - 2:14 am
hello, im glad i saw this site. i really need help. Ive been a single mom for the past 6 years, i have 3 kids aged 19, 15 8. Iam not legally separated from my husband kasi po mahal i cannot afford. last july 23, i left for abroad leaving my kids in my father’s care. dun na po kmi nakatira eversince. no support from my husband, jobless and addict. when he learned i was abroad, kinuha po niya ung 8 yrs old kong anak and 1 month po hindi namin nakakausap and nakikita. the other day my dad received a summon nagfile po ang husband ko annulment and full custody of my youngest daughter. i wanted to file RA 9262 violence against children becoz of the psychological, emotional violence ginawa nya sa 2 ko pa pong anak, hndi mkapag aral dahil sa kaiisip sa youngest kapatid nila.ung pong kinuha nyang anak ko is grade 2 and im sure na stop studies nya.
is this possible?.. simula po nung naghiwalay kmi 6-7 yrs ago, hindi po nya kami pinapatahimik pati po mga anak ko…
please meron po ako ginawa website
August 25th, 2008 - 4:06 pm
Hi,
Can I still file for child support even if my daughter does not carry her father’s last name. You see I had an affair with him back then but he has his own family but right now I really can’t support my daughter alone. You mentioned child support can be filed even if your child does not carry the father’s last name as long as you can prove he is the father? How can one prove it cause the he is denying that my daughter is his child. HELP! Thanks so much…
August 26th, 2008 - 10:32 am
Hi Jackie,
I mean 2ooo php every payday. Thank you for replying to my letter. I’ll do what you said. Lord bless you…
August 26th, 2008 - 1:25 pm
Hi Jay2,
You’re on the right track, file the appropriate cases ASAP. It doesn’t matter if he’s filing for annulment, let him do it. But make sure he pays for what he has done to you and your children.
Jackie
August 26th, 2008 - 1:27 pm
Hi Alex,
I’ve stated before that you can file for child support even if your child doesn’t carry the father’s name. Aside from a DNA test, testimony from those who knew you as a couple is good evidence.
Jackie
September 2nd, 2008 - 4:26 am
allowed ba akong magfile ng child support even nasa ibang bansa kami ng anak ko. my son was only 3 years old but since when we got married never cyang nag sustento sa amin at balita ko may kinakasama na cyang ibang babae, paulit ulit nyang sinasabi sa akin na bibigyan nya kami ng sustento pero until now wala pa rin.Do you think alin ang dapat,magfile ako ng child support para everything proper pagdating sa rights ng bata financially for his education kasi at the moment im not working here in UK kasi still studying pa rin. Magulang ko lang ang tumutulong sa amin mag ina and besides paulit ulit ginugulo ng partido nila kaming mag ina tuwing nagho holiday.do you think fair lang na hingan ko sila ng sustento?
September 9th, 2008 - 3:37 pm
Any means I can I ask for support from the father of my son who left philippines last December 10,2003 to work for Moevenpick hotel 24220 doha qatar as commis. since august 2005 he stopped communicating with my 5 years old son and not giving anything as support for my son’s education. i am pretty sure but i guess he is now in thailand. I dont know of his address, where I can check the where of the father of my son….Any one who know the Where of Mr. wilfredo Prangkang reyes half filipino, half thai….please let me know with this cp number 09168962503.thanks
September 17th, 2008 - 12:38 pm
wer i can get a good attorney?…1 yr. old pa lang anak ko…but ever since he was born walang suporta binibigay yung daddy nya…i am a single mother like you…i am only 22 yrs. old..hindi nga kami kasal but i know my son has his right dahil nakapirma dad nya sa birth certificate nya…i want to file a child support case immediately…bigyan mo nman me advice…thanx…
September 17th, 2008 - 1:29 pm
Hi Darlyn,
It depends on where you live. But really, why pay 20k for a lawyer when you can go to the Public Attorney’s Office? Find a female PAO, they can relate to us women, and will go out of their way to help us, single moms, out.
Jackie
September 21st, 2008 - 5:18 pm
hi. i am also a single mom. i just want to make an inquiry. me and my husband separated last October 2007, he abused me physically, psychologically and economically. he refused to support our 5 year old son. i am minimum wage earner, while my husband is working in a govt institution. for one year, he didnt even gave support to our son. i used to send 3 demand letters but he refused to gave our demand. i want to file him a case, the R.A. 9262, but i don’t have enough money. we are married. please help me. prices of commodities are higher, tuition and school supplies as well as medicines are getting higher everyday. please tell me what to do.
September 21st, 2008 - 9:39 pm
Hi Mariz,
Those demand letters that you sent came from a lawyer? If not, then please have one made from the Public Attorney’s office, and send them to his home and business address. It should be registered mail, so you know that he is receiving it. If a lawyer sent it out, you can file a criminal case for free. It’s the court fees that will cost you. Roughly, 1500 per hearing or so. No need to pay for a lawyer because PAOs work for the government.
Jackie
September 24th, 2008 - 5:54 pm
hello po. tanong ko lang po kung ilang percentage ng sweldo ang kelangang ibigay ng father sa anak nya. See, I’m a single mom and I’m having a hard time on the finances for my baby (3mos old). Hindi po kami kasal nung father because he got another girlfriend while I’m still pregnant. He’s already working and mula nung pinanganak ko ung bata 2,200 lang ang contribution nya sa needs nung bata. Should I send a demand letter to his company?
September 24th, 2008 - 5:59 pm
Hi Irish,
Let me just repeat what I’ve already posted above, it’s 25%-30% of his monthly income (that includes ALL taxable income such as commissions). Before you send a demand letter to his company, you might want to talk to your ex about increasing the monthly support. Because his initial reaction, upon seeing the letter, will be one of anger and humiliation - especially if you send the letter to their legal department.
Jackie
October 3rd, 2008 - 9:25 am
Dear Jackie,
I read all your advices about child support. I do wish you could give me one for my problem. I’ve been separated for almost 9 yrs. and just recently had an affair with a married man. The brief relationship resulted to my pregnancy which was actually planned. However, when the wife learned of our relationship he stopped communicating with me. All calls and texts goes through the wife. He is about to go to Australia, and his agency was very helpful and give him my letter informing him of the pregnancy. He still hasn’t contacted me but the wife sends me nausty text messages.
All I want is for him to acknowledge the child and later on give support. How do I go about this? Do I have to wait ’till I give birth? My fear is that it will be too late by that time especially if he has already left the country. What case should I file?
I earnestly hope you could help me…Coz’ I’m also financially drain at the momment. I have to shorten my working hours because I’m having that morning sickness.
Thank you very much and hope to hear from you very soon.
Nilda
October 3rd, 2008 - 2:26 pm
Hi Nilda
Since he is legally married, and his wife seems only interested in harassing you via text messages; then you can write down the name of the father in the child’s birth certificate even without his consent.
Now it will be a different story if the woman files a case against you … you might want to consult someone about this.
But with regards to child support, since the wife is the legal representative of her husband in the country; you can ask her for child support. Legally, you can.
Hope this helps.
October 4th, 2008 - 6:45 pm
Thanks Jax…One more thing. Is it okay to file for the child support now or after I gave birth? I wanted to make things clear before he leaves soon. I am confuse because some advice me to file a case now and subpeona him for DNA testing just in case he denies the baby. So, I am really at a lost now…Thanks so much.
Nilda
October 6th, 2008 - 4:28 pm
Hi Jackie,
Thanks for a very informative site. I am a single mom, not married to my son’s father. The guy denies his own son. How do I go about this? I read above about subpoening for a DNA test. Is this right?
Also, is my son entitled to land property aside from monthly payment? I would want my son’s rights to be protected until such time as he is old enough to decide for himself if he wants to inherit property from a father who denied him.
Thanks!
October 6th, 2008 - 4:46 pm
Hi Nilda,
Please go ahead and file a case now, especially if he abandoned you even though he knew you were pregnant.
Jackie
October 6th, 2008 - 4:50 pm
Hi Jan
If you are planning on filing a civil or criminal case, you don’t really need a paternity test. If the judge orders so, or if the guy asks - they can have one done at their own expense. You know who the father is, but they are the ones doubting it. So let them pay for it.
As for inheritance, he can’t have any as of now because the father is still alive. Inheritance is given to illegitimate children also, unless there’s a will stating who will be benefiting from the estate. Inheritance law is complicated, and I don’t really dawdle too much on it because I have not given it a lot of thought lately. (My sperm donor doesn’t have anything to his name, so why bother with it hehehe)
Jackie
October 7th, 2008 - 6:01 pm
Thanks Jackie. My son is 4 and until I read your blog, I never really seriously considered demanding financial support. I just thought it was more trouble than it was worth. However, knowing that his company is legally obligated to assist me has made me rethink the situation.
October 7th, 2008 - 6:18 pm
Hi again,
I read RA 9262 here: ops.gov.ph/records/ra_no9262.htm. I can’t find where it says the company is legally obligated to assist me. Can you kindly help point it out?
Thanks again!
October 8th, 2008 - 8:15 am
Good Day!
My husband got me pregnant when he was only 17yrs old and i was 26. We got married right then, with both parents consent.
We now have 3kids, 7yrs old and 3yrs old (twins). I just found out recently he’s having an affair. He’s actually leaving for Dubai soon with his girlfriend. They are actually planning to get married.
They said i cant file a case because he was a minor when we got married. Can i ask for child support? what else can i ask from him?
Thanks
October 11th, 2008 - 8:22 pm
hi…i have a six year old daughter, not married to the father but he signed on the birth certificate..hasn’t given a single dime for child support..3 years ago, i found out he got married to an australian citizen and is now living in australia…i wanted to ask for support for my daughter’s education - sent him numerous emails already but didnt even bother to reply…based on your previous posts - it seems that its a no win situation for me since he’s not living in the phils anymore…is there anyway that i can ask for child support…thanks
irene
October 19th, 2008 - 11:49 pm
Jackie,
My son’s father is a canadian that has a business here in Manila. I haven’t registered the kid yet but he signed on the birth certificate. He acknowledged the kid as his son. He is an Immigration Consultant of Canada and has office in Makati. He’s making money more than I do. But he’s only paying 1000 peso monthly. So the other expenses is being paid by me or my mom. I wanted to know the disadvantage and advantages if I register the kid under his surname or under mine. My son is 3 yrs. old now. I wanted to know the things I should do about the back child support. When I was pregnant he only left 18000 peso and he wants me to use it for 9 months until I give birth. He is an alcoholic. He drinks 3 to 4 big bottles of beer every night and that’s when he’s at his condominium and more if he goes out.We don’t live together and I want to know more things about this matter. I want him to do his responsibility and not just leave me worrying where I’m going to get money if the kid gets sick or for the other things the kid needs. I’m honestly not familiar with this things.Help please.
October 24th, 2008 - 8:16 am
Hi my name is Roselle and I’m a single mother. I need information about filing a child support for my daughter. My situtaion is different from the others. I live in New Jersey and the father of my child is in Philippines. He is also a OFW in Dubai. I left philippines in 1998 but before I left I found out that I was pregnant. I confront my ex bf about the situtaion and gave me a bad answer. He did not support my child since she was a baby. Now my daughter is 9 years old and the expense is also getting big. My daughter and I went in the philippines this past MAY 2008 and hoping that I can get a support from him while my daughter was there. Unfortunately he was in dubai but I spoke to his mother and tell her that I’m going to need financial support for my daughter. While I was there she called his son and spoke to him about the situation. He said that he has his own family now and cannot give me anything. But I still demand a support for my daughter. Help please…
November 2nd, 2008 - 6:07 am
Im impressed with this article, i am a single mother but in my case its hard to fight when the mother of my X is working in an NGO who caters women’s right. if i file case with the help of Public office, its just nothing her mother have all the connections. how can i fight with my daughters right. i consult a private lawyer but it cost too much, but still i want the support cause its for child’s good to be recognized and accepted with her father family. what are the other alternative to do? is there an organization i can run to?
November 6th, 2008 - 9:18 pm
hello jacks!
I am so happy i was able to find you in the internet. I am a gov’t employee and my child is 9 years old. My husband who’s a seaman wants to leave us. He promise to give the child $ 300 per month. I disagree because prices now a days are to high and my child is attending in a private school. I don’t want him to go. What shall i do now? Please give me some advice.
November 13th, 2008 - 3:47 pm
what are the grounds for child support if the mother abandoned the husband? and can she also ask for support from the husband if she is the one who left? can u please give me some advice about the right of the father also.
November 19th, 2008 - 5:53 pm
May I suggest that you have an auto link where this site can be forwarded anonymously to fathers who do not support their children so that they will “somehow” be enlightened? Thanks!
Btw, I’d like to answer Tony…Even if the mother supposedly “abandoned” the husband, it doesn’t mean that he should not support his child. The wife cannot ask for support for herself (alimony) but she can ask support for the child. Alimony is different from child support. According to our law, the child has the right to be supported by both parents.
December 8th, 2008 - 5:27 am
hi hindi kami kasal ng father ng anak ko dahil sa nakapetisyon sya sa america, naghiwalay lang kami last nov 12, 2008 but for the past years our relationship was unstable because of other woman, still accepted him knowing na magbabago sya for our child,and for the past few years hindi ko alam na pinapadalahan sya ng parents nya ng monthly allowance,can i file for financial support?please help
December 10th, 2008 - 3:12 am
Hi! Im judith. I am a mother of a 2yrs old kid. The father of my son is an australian citizen. I went to australia last september 3 2005 when the father of my child petitioned me as fiancee. Month after I arrived I got pregnant with my son in Australia. The father of my son and I are suppose to get married in australia last nov 19, 2005 but a week before our wedding i left from his house because i cannot take all the humiliation he did to me. That means I never been married to the father to the father of my child. After I left from his house, a filipino friends in Australia accommodated me in their house until i finally decided to just go back to Philippines because I cannot take the depression and heartaches he caused me. The father of my child did not support me from the very beggining I conceived my child inside my womb up to now and he doesnt seem to have any intension so support my child. I conceived with my child in Australia but he was born here in Davao City, Philippines and he was not acknowledge by his father in his birth certificate. The only proof that he was acknowledged by his father was through his mail to me. He acknowledge in his e-mail to me that Kurt Laurence is his son. He also sends birhtday cards in my son’s 1st and 2nd birthday this year and last year of July 3. Now, I would like to ask what are the steps to do in order to demand a Child Support for my son from his father in Australia? Thank you and i hope to hear from you soon.
December 14th, 2008 - 3:46 pm
I would ask on how to claim child support for my child. His father passed away years ago and would like to know if the Australian goverment are helping in terms of child support. We are still in the Philippines.
Thanks.
December 29th, 2008 - 11:42 pm
My relationship with my husband is now not good, we have 3 kids 8,7 and 1 yr old…he is working as entertainer in hongkong and applied as sinlge. the first 3 yrs of his work is good cause he is sending us money but its not enough. he is just giving me 15 thou monthy for my 3 kids my youngest is sickly i always rushed him in the hosp bcoz of his inborn defeciency and my 2 kids now studying in private school, i calculated all the expenses its not enough. im still staying in my mom house. my mom is helping me. my mom is the one taking care of our foods. my husband still supporting my inlaws i dont know how much he is given them and i dont know how much he is earning in hongkong. my youngest son is recently hospitalized i call him to help me and ask for money but he never gave us now i have outstanding debt in the hosp and i promised to pay back in january 2 2009, but my husband never call us. now we dont have any single money and im just asking help in all of my relatives just to buy milk and food for the kids…what will i do. i have a feeling that he wants to left me…i dont have work im just here at home taking care of the kids. i dont know what to do.. help me pls
December 30th, 2008 - 1:22 am
mayroon bang topic dito, tungkol sa asawa ang nangaliwa, pagkatapos balak pang pagka perahan ang husband? Kasama pa ang lalaki sa legal office. at nagsabing textmate at umaangkas lang cya sa motor kahit gabi na. wala rin work ang babae. Kindly paki advice din.
December 30th, 2008 - 9:28 am
hello
pwede ko bang idemanda ang babae ng asawa ko, dahil alam nya na kahit may asawa nagpabuntis pa rin sya nagsasama na sila ngayon,taga San Mateo ang babae di ko lang alam kung saaan ang eksaktong address nya kapapanganak palang nong october pangalan nya ny Annalyn dela Cruz. pwede ba silang makulong na dalawa? anong kaso ang maari kung i file against them, maari pa bang makakuha ng financial support ang anak ko?
salamat at sana happy ang new year nyo
January 19th, 2009 - 11:32 am
Hi Jackie, my problem does not concern child support but is within R.A. 9262 as well.
I have been married to my husband since 2002 and we have 2 kids, age 9 and 4. We got separated 4 months ago and I am now living with my parents. When I left I left my eldest son with him since his family is paying for his schooling, but I took my younger son with me. He has been borrowing my younger son from me and many times I have proven that when it comes to bringing back my son, he refuses to do so and insists that I straighten out things with him which I refuse.
Now my problem is he recently borrowed my younger son, so now he has both my sons. Now he refuses to bring my younger son back to me nor let me see my kids.
What case can I file against him? What can I do?
By the way, I moved away from home because he hit me and I have medical certificates to prove it. I already went to a Family Court but all I got was be passed around. I could not even file for a TPO because they needed me to get a petition from a lawyer first. I thought one could file a TPO easily as needed.
Thanks.
January 28th, 2009 - 10:14 am
Hello, my son born out of marriage, i!m still single now the father of my son is a US citizen and have already a family there, he is a nurse ,he just sent 200$ a month regularly it is enough? can i ask for more? my son attended in a private school hes in first year high school now, since times are getting tougher and prices keeps on going higher…
February 1st, 2009 - 2:35 pm
i have a question regarding a friend’s situation. he is filing an annulment against his wife who used to physically and verbally abuse him. the wife has full custody of their child. she and her family refuse to let him see the child even if he gives money for the child’s needs. he has stopped going to the wife’s house to give money to avoid her hostile attitude. he wants to set up a trust fund for the child instead of giving child support so that his wife won’t use the money for herself. is that okay? he just wants to make sure that the child will get the financial support instead of the wife.
February 2nd, 2009 - 9:14 am
Hi this is margot i!m still waiting for your suggestion pls reply me…
February 2nd, 2009 - 10:26 am
Hi Nina,
Child support has nothing to do with the father’s age, and whether the two of you are legally married. Your children deserve a monthly financial support, PERIOD.
Hi Irene, Judith & Jane,
Please contact the Australian embassy for legal support. They would be more than happy to help you out. This is their trunkline 757 8100.
Hi Coleen,
I’m not familiar with Canadian laws, but since he is living here in the Philippines, our laws apply to him. He should be giving more than 1k pesos a month. Please contact the Canadian embassy and ask them to help you out. Sorry I can’t find their number.
Hi Roselle,
I am assuming you and your daughter are American citizens. So you need to contact the Philippine consulate to help you out. If you are Filipino citizens still, you may need to contact POEA to assist you in filing for child support. It doesn’t matter if the father is married and has a family, he still has to give financial support.
Hi Ags,
There are a variety of NGOs out there catering to the needs of women. I don’t suppose they know EVERYBODY. Besides, you won’t be filing any complaints via their organizations, you’ll be filing a civil case.
Hi Gigi,
I’m not really sure how much your husband makes in a month, but I honestly think $300 is enough for your child - but of course that SHOULD NOT include medical and educational expenses. Talk about it with him before he leaves, or file a complaint with the POEA. I don’t think there’s anything you can do to stop him from leaving.
Hi Tony,
The same laws apply to men, of course. You will have to file a civil case against your wife. It’s not unknown for a man to file for abandonment.
Hi Rachel,
How old is this guy? If he’s already an adult, I don’t understand why he has to ask for an allowance from his parents. He should be getting a job, get over him and find someone else more responsible.
Hi Aye,
Your husband has the right to give to his parents. Do you want money or revenge? If you want to get even, contact POEA, tell them that you husband falsified his documents. He’ll be back in Manila within a month!
Hi Mars,
If your wife left you and cheated on you, shouldn’t you be filing for an annulment or separation???
Hi Annie,
Sure please go ahead and file for concubinage against your husband. Adultery is another case you can file.
Hi Honey,
I think you should consult a good lawyer and not just those working for free. Really!!! I’m not familiar with all the laws under RA 9262, I am just familiar with those pertaining to child support.
Hi Margot,
Yes you can ask for more. $200 is your son’s monthly support, it should not include medical and educational expenses. Recalculate how much you son needs, divide by half. Half should be shouldered by the father, half by the mother. If he doesn’t agree, you can always go to the US Embassy for help.
Hi Cassie,
If he sets up a trust fund, when will the child get the money? How often will the child get an allowance? How old is the child anyway? If he’s about 13 or 14, I think the kid can manage his own allowance. Here’s an idea, instead of giving money, tell your friend to give “supplies”. If the child gets hospitalized, ask your friend to pay for half. Send a check instead of cash for the tuition fee, and should be uner the school’s name.
Hope this helped. Sorry haven’t had much time to answer questions.
Jax
February 2nd, 2009 - 1:05 pm
Ok thanks i really appreciate for your help..
February 4th, 2009 - 8:40 am
My husband and I are estranged for 1 year now. No support for my 2 kids, he also took some of our valuables/properties when he left. I work for my kids and struggles to maintain the lifestyle that we were accustomed to. I know there’s a third party and just recently, I found out where he is now. He lived with the girl’s family. The girl went abroad to work for 6mos and now I heard, she’s coming back next week. My husband works there already, lives with the parents. His new family are very protective of their name. So they don’t want me to create a scandal. The parents knew all along that my husband has a family but they tolerate the relationship.I want to file the case in their place though I’m not from there.Is it possible? Thank you.
February 4th, 2009 - 10:47 pm
its really nice to find out that theres a website like this..im really happy i’ve learnd so mush about this articles since i’m a single parent too..
God bless & more power!
February 6th, 2009 - 6:37 pm
jan,
an illegitimate child has 50% of the share of a legitimate child to his father’s estate when he dies. it maybe in the form of cash or property. but the child will not (yet) have the right to inherit until the father dies.
in any case, when the father dies, your child will have to claim his rightful share in the distribution of the father’s estate. this is usually done by filing a petition in the court handling the testate or intestate proceedings of the property of the deceased.
ahmedy
February 11th, 2009 - 4:02 am
Hi!
My ex husband is a taiwanese. we had 2 children. since he left year 1998 he never give financial support. Do you have an idea how to file child support for a foreigner father? thank’s and god bless!
genne
February 13th, 2009 - 4:51 am
Hi Ms. Acosta,
My inquiry is regarding the Phil laws on inheritance. I livein Canada with my 3 children . He lives in the Phil and I divorced him in 1991 and our marriage was annulled in 2002. There was never a support from him ever since we left the Phil in 1987. I supported my girls ever since. My girls has nver been very closed to their father after we left him. He is now married and has 4 small sons in the Phil and I heard that he has never told his new family that he has a family before. I wanted to inquire that if he dies will my 3 girls have the right of inheritance just in case he does not put them in his will.
Thank you.
February 18th, 2009 - 10:26 am
Hi Ms. Jackie,
I would like to inquire on how to compose a demand letter for the father of our 3 kids. He’s currently overseas (Dubai) & the monthly remittance that we’re getting has been gradually decreasing for 2 consecutive months (Nov & Dec ‘08) & none for the month of Jan ‘09. Later my sister found out that he’s having an illicit affair to a Filipina. I would like to send him a demand letter for the child support of our 3 kids.
Thank you so much.
February 18th, 2009 - 7:40 pm
hi, may problema ako…aussie citizen ako and have a child to bf who lives in the philippines. Paano ba mag pa parenting test para sa kanya at saan sa pinas pwede ito magawa….i need this document para sa anak ko.Im so confused and like a big help, kung saang hospitals or clinic pwede sya mag pa parenting test. At kung paano ito ipe perform without our son who lives with me here in australia. your help is very much appreciated… thank you
February 22nd, 2009 - 5:01 am
I have a son from my ex bf and we’re not married and I want to ask for child support.He is not willing to support my son. Is is possible to sue him and put him to jail?
thank you
February 24th, 2009 - 1:41 pm
Hi! I have read the violence against women and children act and was thinking of filing a case against my husband who works in Dubai. He has sent me an email stating he will no longer support me and our 3 sons ages 4, 3 and 2. Is there someone you personally know that can help me? I don’t know how to go about this and considering that I now have to support 3 very young kids, my budget is very tight. please email me your reply. Thanks
March 2nd, 2009 - 6:26 pm
Hi,
I’d like to know how to obtain a child support from a US citizen Father of my child, he works as a merchant marine for the US Government and we have been together for over 8 yrs, but recently i found out that he’s living in with his Thai GF in the US, we have a 3 yr old daughter and I want to be sure that he will not abandon his financial obligation to our daughter who will be in school already by coming june. We are not married but he signed the BC of my daughter and acknowledges her as his daughter. I was searching at US embassy site how to obtain or even details on how to file for it but their site doesnt say anything about it…i will appreciate it if you can help me on this one..thanks so much.
March 3rd, 2009 - 7:32 pm
Good Day Miss Jackie!
I was glad to see this blog of yours while i’m surfing the net here in our office. Actually i would just like to ask what should i do with my situation lately. I am an office clerk, single, currently two months pregnant, the father is an old British guy who lives here in Manila for almost 20 years and we had been dating since November 2008. He had been married to a filipina before, got seprated already for ten years and he had two kids in his custody ever since. Last week we argued regarding my pregnancy because he wanted me to abort it beacause he said he was not yet ready to have another child. That time i was so hurt then told him that even if he dont want the child im carrying i will push through my pregnancy and i gave my word that wont bother him regarding of this since i had my friends and family to support me!
After reading your site here, i had a little doubt that i can fully support my child alone even with the help of my family and friends. Is it possible to ask for the help of my child’s father? Do i need to eat my pride and break my word to him as well?
March 4th, 2009 - 10:07 am
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March 4th, 2009 - 11:46 am
Dear Jackie: I need your help very much. I am a single mother, have a illegitimate child. I’d like to know how to obtain a child support from a US citizen who the father of my child. i had ons with him in Philippines 7 years ago. then i got pregnant, now my daugther is almost 6 years old, she lives with me in the Philippines. in these years, the father keep sending me money around 400~500usd/month in the past 4 years, one year ago, he cut down the amount to 180usd. i want the father to pay more than 170usd,but he ignore me.
I am a banker, my salary is around 16000~18000P/month, now my daughter in a private school in cebu. the father live in America (we never meet again since i got pregnant), he is a student, don’t have any income in 3 years, he is married and no child right now.
My questions are: do you think i have a big chance to win if i take him to the court? if i decide to take him to the court. which counties law my case should follow? American law or The Philippines law? i’d better get a lawyer here or in America?
I appreciate your help!
March 4th, 2009 - 11:52 am
correct: he cut down the amount to 170 usd. Jenny
March 17th, 2009 - 3:52 am
Mam Jackie,
Gusto ko po sanang malaman kung pwede ko po bang kunin yung bata sa ex-girlfriend ko since hihingi rin naman sya ng financial support kung pwede ako na lang ang mag-aalaga sa baby. She had another relationship nung kami pa and nakipaghiwalay po ako, tapos nalaman ko nga po na buntis sya. And sabi nga po niya ako daw po ang daddy, hindi ko naman po plano i-deny ang bata pero kasi po kung magbibigay rin lang po ako sa kanya and then di ko rin naman makakasama ang bata, mas gugustuhin ko na lang po na sa akin na lang ang bata. I just came from abroad, nagresign po ako and currently unemployed, sya naman po unemployed din and panganay po sa family nya. I was thinking it will be better for the both of us kung sa akin na lang ang bata since medyo mas nakaka-angat naman ako. Thank you po and sana mabigyan nyo po ako ng advice.
March 18th, 2009 - 2:49 pm
Mam jackie,
i just got my annulment and my big problem now is the costudy of my daughter she is just 5 years old,gusto ng asawa ko sa kanya ang costudy ng anak namin and for sure di ako papayag,since lagi cyang nasa abroad (OFW) di nya nakasama ang anak nmin ng matagal na panahon.At ngaun gusto nyang kunin ang anak nmin,dahil ako ang nag file ng annulment.Free na raw po ako pero sa kanya ang anak namin.Ang tanong ko po anu po ang magiging rights ko dito.Sa ngaun nandito ako sa Canada nagtatrabaho as caregiver at di ako makakauwi,ang asawa ko uuwi na sa June from Saudi.Worried talaga ako ngayon dahil baka kukunin nya ang anak namin sa mother ko.Anu po ang habol ko dito?Hinding hindi po ako papayag na mahiwalay ang anak ko sa akin,at plano ko cyang dalhin dito sa Canada,pero mahihirapan ako kung hindi makipag cooperate ang husband ko tungkol sa costudy.Please give me advice.Thank you and more power!
April 3rd, 2009 - 12:35 am
Hello po! Ask ko lng po kung paano ako makakahingi ng child support sa ex-bf kong nasa dubai? Npakaliit po ng binibigay nya & to think, chef na po sya dun. Pwede ko rin po ba singilin sa knya ang mga nagastos ko nuon? Ikalawang balik na po nya sa dubai ngyn at ikalawang beses na rin po ako niloko. Wala po sya naitulong sakin financially nung unang punta nya sa dubai kya nman naubos po ang pera ko. Maaari ko po ba un pabayaran sa knya lhat? Lalo na po yung time na nanganak ako, at CS pa at hindi man lng nagpadala sakin khit onti. Malaman laman ko nlng po ay lht po ng pera nya ay napupunta lng sa babae nya.Maaming salamat po at sana po ay matulungan nyo ko
April 7th, 2009 - 4:30 pm
SIR/MADAM:
Would like to inquire with regards to the child support that i wanna ask for my ex husband ..He never gave me a child support for 8 years and he was with his new wife now for 10 years …Now we have an agreement that he needs to give money every 15th and 30th but still he cannot do his responsibilities .That the reason why it encourages me to be able to file a child support in the court ..Where in my kids have the right to have it.The family always told us that my ex husband dont have work and the other woman was the one whos supporting him.But i dont care about it … Since it is his responsibilities .Is there any possibilities that i can get a support or if the father of my kids dont have job but his families belong to well off family .. Will it be possible that i can get a support .. thanks a lot. Hope that you can reply to my email regarding this matter..
Sincerely,
Jean
April 16th, 2009 - 9:04 pm
Emilys Post
Single mom demands financial support
By Emily A. Marcelo
Philippine Daily Inquirer
First Posted 06:06:00 10/05/2008
Filed Under: Advice, Family
MANILA, Philippines – Dear Emily,
I am a 35-year-old single mother with a 7-year-old daughter. She’s from a relationship I had with a US navy man I met when I worked abroad.
I have been fighting for financial support for the past seven years since he signed the paternal affidavit of her live birth certificate.
I’ve already sent letters to his command, providing all the documents of his paternity. I even sent him the letter he requested stating the amount his daughter needed monthly. That support for my daughter is supposed to be deducted automatically from his salary but the money he sends is insufficient.
He warned me not to send letters anymore to his command because it gets him into trouble, but what can I do? I can barely make ends meet and it’s costing a lot to send my daughter to school.
LENIE
Was this child the result of a long and meaningful relationship or the forgettable frivolity of a one-night stand? Whatever the history, this guy clearly isn’t into you or your daughter.
If you must pursue his financial support, write a detailed, well-composed letter to his superiors at the US Navy Command and tell them how he has reneged on his financial obligations to his daughter. Attach all the pertinent documents proving he is really the father. That should wake him up!
In the meantime, stop already all these whining and mendicancy mentality.
You’re an able-bodied woman. Reverse your frame of mind and stop using him as a crutch. Instead, think of how to fend for yourself like tapping into your latent ability to be a strong and independent human being.
Why not get an honest-to-goodness work that will pay you a monthly salary? No matter how low it is, that regular income is better than waiting for that almighty dollar, albeit unstable, from your ex.
Let him realize what a catch you could have been had he stayed with you. Prove to him how reliable and dependable you have become!
Put some gloss in your character and personality by your independence! You will like yourself better that way, and—respect yourself more. Then you can tell him to go to hell and shake hands with the devil!
E-mail the author at emarcelo@inquirer.com.ph,
April 19th, 2009 - 3:52 am
Hello Ms. Jackie,
I’m a single mom living with my parents and I’m still studying right now…
I have 2 kids, a 6 y/o boy and a 3 y/o girl dun sa ex bf ko… We’re not married and he didn’t sign to our children’s birth certificate but he do acknowledge our children… I’m unemployed and father ko lng ang sumusuporta sa amin ng mga anak ko since hindi nga nagbibigay ng financial support sa mga bata yung ex bf ko. 2 1/2years na kaming hiwalay and since then di na sya nagbigay sa mga anak namin. Noon pa lng na naghiwalay na kami, twice ko na syang kinausap regarding sa mga bata but then sa tuwing umalis na sya di naman sya nagpapadala para sa mga anak nya. He said yes pero di naman sya tumutupad sa sinasabi nya(Seaman po kasi yung ex ko sa isang luxury shipping lines. 5 years na syang seaman ngayon.) kya I decided to file a financial support for our children dun po sa brgy nila. Marami po kasi akong Question… I just want to know kung yung 25-30% na financial support is only for 1 child or for both of them kasi nga po 2 yung kids namin? If I’m going to direct filing pwede ba dito sa area of residence namin kasi taga Q.C. sya and Caloocan naman po ako? Actually, nagkaharap na kami sa brgy and sabi nya 5000php lng daw po ang kaya nyang ibigay dahil nga po nandito sya ngayon at wala daw syang income. Maga-add daw sya pagnakasampa na sya. I ask him kung magkano ia-add nya. He told me kung magkano lng daw ang kya nya. Ayaw nyang magsabi ng specific figure then ayaw din nyang sabihin kung magkano salary nya kaya di ako pumayag. 20,000php ang hinihingi ko dahil nag-aaral na yung eldest namin then next year mag-aaral na rin po yung pangalawang anak namin. wala po akong idea kung magkano ang totoong salary nya basta ang alam ko lng more than 1000 us dollars ang salary nya ngayon po ay may asawa na sya. Tanong ko lang po kung wala ba akong right na humingi ng full support para sa mga bata since unemployed po ako kaya wala pa akong maipprovide sa ngayon para sa mga anak namin and tama po ba na 5,000php lng ang ibigay nya kapag wala syang sampa or pano po kung totally wala syang ibigay dahil reason nya wala syang income pag nandito sya sa lupa… pano pong gagawin ko? Pasensya na po kayo kung ang haba ng sinulat ko. sana po matulungan nyo ko… Thanks na rin po in advance… Sa totoo lng gulong-gulo na rin ang isip ko.. Magandang way na rin ‘to para makapag-unload ako ng burden na nararanasan ko ngayon… Thanks a lot Ms. Jackie…(”,)
April 23rd, 2009 - 11:11 am
my wife and i are from the US and we are currently trying to adopt an infant from an orphangage…our close friend that is working for us was told that we now have to file for “abandonment paper”…but our consern is that she told us it would cost us $2,500(dollars!)…but i have read what your readers have put up in this site that it only cost them 2,500 pesos…so, what is the real price for filing this paperwork????
April 24th, 2009 - 2:48 pm
Mayroon bang organization sa government na free assistant especially kung wala talaga pera yong mother kasi iniwan sila ng asawa nila , then may 3 kids sya , kailnagan talaga ng child support then 2 months na yong brother ko pinas di pa sya nagpapadala pero bagu umalis sila may usapan lang na magbibigay sya, pero nag sahod na sya di man lang nagbigay sabi pa ng new wife nya sa sister ko walang pera kaya wala syang ibibigay? tapos don sa bagong kinakasama nya wala naman syang anak. pls email naman nyo naman ako kasi naawa lang ako sa mga bata , email add bulacanlake@yahoo.com erick thanks
April 28th, 2009 - 3:09 pm
Hi Jackie,
I’m glad I landed on your site..
I’m a concern aunt of 2 nieces, daughters of my brother. I’m just curious if my brother can file child abandonment to his ex-wife? They were married in 1996 and separated in 1999. The mother left her 2 daughters to my brother and since we are his immediate family, especially my mother, we shoulder the responsibility of being the parent of the two kids. My mother filed a child abandonment vs. the mother in our baranggay sometime in 2002.
We learned, from the mother’s relatives that she is working abroad. Upon checking we found out that the mother is still using her maiden name and did not declare her daughters as beneficiary and using “Single” as her status. We never deprive the children to talk to their mother whenever there’s an apportunity but the mother seldom call and never tried to visit her daughters for past 10 years.
We also learned, that the mother already with other man and they are living n Laguna now.
My brother has no permanent job, that is why I’m the one supporting the 2 children as their aunt. I’m only after the legal remedies for the children’s welfare. Can we deprive the mother of her rights to her children? Anyway, she never declares them as her daughters.
thanks and more power!
April 28th, 2009 - 5:42 pm
jhessy j.
April 28th, 2009 - 11:44 am good day
my case is different and i need your some advice.d kammi kasal at may anak kaming isa bukod sa una nyang anak.nasa abroad ako at maganda ang sustento ko sa bata,($400 monthly).pinutol ko ang sustento ko dahil sa nabalitaan ko na pinagkakalat ng babae sa skul ng panganay nya na d daw ako nagpapadala ng sustento at kaya daw d pa sya nakakabayad ng tuition. at ng umuwi ako at nagharap kami sa PAO( public attorney office) gawa ng dinemanda nya ako.nasabi ko sa abogado na in kind na lng ang sustento or kwentahin kung magkano ang gastusin ng bata for a month at ganun din ang sabi ng abogado sa ex ko! pero ng sumunod na paghaharap namin sa abogado wala silang computation at nagsabi sila ng ok na ang sustento na $400.kc nung una gusto nila na mas malaki pa sa $400 ang ibigay ko kaya nasabi ko sa abogado na in kind na lng.sabi ko sa abogado na ako na mismo ang nag offer na 8000 pesos monthly ang ibibigay ko pero gusto nila 10000 pesos kaya wala talaga kaming napagkasunduan. ang ginawa ko nag open account na lng akosa pangalan ng bata at nagbibigay ng gatas, diapers, etc. na nag aabot ang aking kapatid gawa ng wala ako sa pinas. at hangang nngayun ganun ang naging sistema. pero ngayun may dumating na nmn na subpoena sa akin at maghaharap na kami sa korte. pwede bang ikaso or maging isang dahilan ang mahigit isang taon na d ko pagbigay ng pera sa kanila gawa ng wala nmn kaming napagkasunduan? at bakit may kasamag child abuse sa kaso ko? pwede po bang makahingi ng advice sa inyo at ng pag uwi ko sa pinas ay alam ko ang gagawin ko. kc ayaw kong maapektuhan ang pag aabroad ko dahil d2 sa kasong ito! maraming salamat po! umaasa po sa inyong mga sagot at opinion!
jhessy
May 4th, 2009 - 10:45 am
ok please take care of your child by the way im cesar tacal from vigan city ilocos sur,philippines im 41 years old my cellphone number 09154325366…
May 4th, 2009 - 3:03 pm
# jazz
May 4th, 2009 - 2:16 pm
hi jackie! here’s my situation,. I have a 2 year old daughter and she carrries her biological father’s last name. He’s my boyfriend that time and we’ve decided not to get married because we’re not ready yet. His family knew about the kid the time I gave birth so my mother and sister were the people that supports me with my entire pregnancy til I gave birth. Then he started supporting her fives months after since that’s the time he got a job , buying her milk and diaper. Then we parted ways . The last time he visited our daughter was February 2008 and the last milk and diapers were sent June 2008. Since then, my new boyfriend helps me to support my daughter .Her father didn’t contact us anymore or even visit our daughter. Now I’m married to a responsible man and about to have a baby. My daughter lives with us and she calls my husband as “daddy.” My husband loves her so much. He treats her like his own child. My husband and I wants her to carry our last name . What shall I do? We don’t want to ask support from the father because we can support my daughter with everything she needs and wants. Thanks
May 8th, 2009 - 2:03 pm
helo po,nasa ibang bansa po ako.at ang asawa ko last 2000-2007 nasa dubai siya at narinig ko mismo sa kanya na may ka live in siyang jordanian,bukod don sinabi nyng 4 years na sila..pagdating niya sa pinas may nakita akung pik na kasama niya lalaki niya,pwede na po bang maging evidence ko ang pik na yun?kasi asawa niya ako at masakit sa loob ko na makita siyang my kasama siyang lalaki at foreigner pa.may dalwa kaming anak,..pinutol ko support ko sa kanya hanggang ngaun..
May 15th, 2009 - 2:21 pm
hello sis!!!
im a single mom to 2 daughters aged 4 and 6. I am an ex-OFW (factory worker in Taiwan for 2years and 8months, just got home November 2008). My husband and I separated for more than 3years now (he left me even before our 2nd child is born). I never asked for financial support for the past years because he was jobless. But last Feb 2009, he found a job as a seaman (OCW) and he didnt talked to me about it (since andito na ako sa pilipinas that time na umalis cia). Granting na hiwalay na kami but still very much legally married to each other, i believe that my kids and I should get something from the allotment. He declared married in all his documents but gave her allotment to her mother. He left the country without saying he is leaving. I just learned from his mom that he has already left.
someone advised me to go to POEA and tell them the situation, that my mother-in-law is receiving the allotment but gives nothing for the children. I’m planning to take another overseas job by september of this year. If ever i win this case, by being his allottee, can i still be his allottee even if i am abroad? will a Special Power of Attorney for my children’s guardian (appointed by me: My Parents) make the guardian a legal receiver of the allotment? or i will be forced to give it back to his mother???
please advice… thank you very much…